![]() ![]() It's hugely helpful for kids.īut it's also critical for adults, and especially successful adults who frankly don't have a lot of experience being knocked down and getting back up again. In child psych they talk about "resilience", the ability to get back on your feet when something knocks you down. I think this is pretty key and doesn't get enough attention. > Bad shit will always happen, but at least you're in a position to deal with it! Because no matter what I'm doing, I can never do enough to fix it. I find myself reflecting way too often that I'm glad I don't have kids - they won't have to live with the mess society is generating that I can't fix. I'm aware of how lucky I am and how I screw this up (or just have it screwed up for me) at any moment, and I feel like I can't every fully relax because _I have to be responsible_.Īnother poster here generalized beyond this article to say that we as a nation (and perhaps world) are at a high level of anxiety, and we reflect it in everything and kids pick up on that. I constantly feel like disaster looms around every corner. All of this despite being financially successful and very happily married. I'm unhealthy, and my sleep is so messed up that "good" nights are those that are less bad. ![]() So I could never DO well enough, despite always wanting to.ĭespite this, I grew up considered a pretty laid back, Zen guy. I had no idea I had all of this repressed trauma from being old enough to understand I was being given all of this responsibility, but no way to actually achieve it, or even a way to know if I was doing well enough. I'm over 40, and grew up as the older-by-5 years sibling with a single mom. I cried because there was a scene where it was so obvious that the older brother was being treated as the "Man of the House". Not at the scenes I think most people might. I watched Stranger Things for the first time a few months ago (I know, I know, but at least I did).
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